The Identity Trap
What I learned when I stopped identifying with just my Sun Sign
I remember when I found out about my Capricorn Moon.
I was laying on the floor of my friend’s dorm room, legs up the wall, talking about how I felt like I was working so hard and it was never enough. I was new to Astrology at the time, and strongly identified with my Aries Sun. I attributed my feelings to Aries’ lack of follow-through… surely there was a mysterious step that I was missing that would allow me to reach the satisfaction I craved??
My friend challenged this belief entirely, pointing out that I was actually quite adept at following through — someone she saw as a person who always gives their all to everything they do.
This prompted her to look up my Moon Sign, which is Capricorn. Capricorn Moons place their self worth in being useful and productive. They set high expectations for themselves, and are self-critical when they don’t achieve them. The explanation for my feelings was right there. I realized that I had been limiting myself due to my generic understanding of Astrology.
I began voraciously researching my Capricorn Moon; the traits it added to my Aries Sun sign traits, its aspect to my Sun sign, and everything in between. Embracing my Capricorn Moon traits allowed me to grow my self-understanding and recognize myself more holistically, which in turn, caused real changes in how I showed up in my life.
I stopped thinking of myself as someone who couldn’t implement my goals, and instead recognized that my super power lies in Aries’ ability to initiate and Capricorn’s ability to follow through.
I began to see how Aries and Capricorn are similar, how they could support each other, work better together, etc. In other words, the system of my authentic personality became clear to me, and my life reflects that.
I started writing this newsletter four years ago to 56 subscribers, and now I’m writing to almost 700 of you alongside my astrology practice. I went from barely being able to run a mile to running 30+ miles a week. I’ve taken on lifestyle changes for my health, moved across the country, devoted myself to parenting my son, and pursued my dreams with a fervor that my 18-year-old self lying on that dorm room floor never would have believed she had in her.
My Capricorn Moon was there the whole time. I just had a different story about who I was that caused me to ignore that part of myself.
So let me ask you what my friend essentially asked me — what’s the part of you that you’ve been overlooking? Or worse, mistaking for a flaw?
That’s exactly what my North Star chart is built to reveal: your super powers, your complexities, and the traits that pull you toward what actually matters to you.
On Thursday, I’m sharing what happened when I sat down to write my own and my tips for finding, and embracing your whole self. I’ll see you there.
